No one should live two different lives. People who live for someone else, most of the time, do not make it far because their passion is affected by other people’s thoughts. We become the meanings that other people give to us as soon as we believe in their meanings. Soon enough, we are not who we want to be, we are not doing more than we used to, and we become depressed because their negative signals interfere with our positive antennae, which causes us to deviate from our plans and our positive mindsets. Even if it’s your family that is interfering with your success, you must be strong and overcome the storm. I need you to be a rebel. Yes, a rebel.
Long story short: I was raised by my grandmother for seven or eight years, and I spent about ten years living with my parents and siblings right after. During that decade, I was the one who bought my own clothes, took care of most of my life, finished educating myself, and supported myself mentally and financially. There were times I was beaten by my oldest sister for what was mine, and I had to pick up my little siblings from school after I had to walk about two miles to leave school. I only had the chance to invest in myself at night, and I only slept two hours a night by the time I was 17. As soon as I hit 18, I took my personal belongings and disappeared into thin air. What the hell had happened? During my whole time living with them, I was mentally disturbed, and my goal was to live by myself, to free my mind and live only the life that I expected for myself, rather than what my family expected me to become. However, I didn’t disappear without a plan. I had a plan, which was drafted at ten years old and executed as soon as I reached adulthood.
Three steps must be followed for any of our priorities to come to fruition (many of you have heard this from me by now, and I have used these same steps for any all of my plans since I was 10; our circumstances make us creative, rebellious, authentic, and effective throughout our lifetimes):
- Have a plan.
- Execute the plan.
- Change the plan as needed.